Thursday, October 30, 2008

How does that happen?

Strange no? How does a die-hard CFBC'er do a 180 and want to have a kid? This wasn't some sudden "I need something new, hey honey let's have a kid!" decision. It's the same decision-making process as thinking about getting a puppy or kitten. It takes time, patience, love, money, and sacrifice. A lot of these feelings have to do with my age and hormones.

I'm 32, 33 in just a few months. I have matured and grown in the last 10 years. Some of my views have changed, some haven't. Opinions and views change with more information, education and experiences. That's called being human. Striving to know and learn more is an aspect of someone's personality that shows they are most likely responsible and don't subscribe to one dimensional thinking. I've met so many people that don't want to learn or educate themselves on things that do affect them. They like to be ignorant of facts and information because to them, changing their mind is showing weakness. That couldn't be further from the truth. It's so sad and pitiful.

Frankly, I'm sick of taking BCPs. Because of my huge weight loss, the strength of the YAZ I was on didn't work anymore. I had two periods in one month. Something has changed. Maybe this change is in my favor?

I could never understand why people think that Childfree people hate kids. Granted some are militant, but the majority of Childfree adults are fine about kids, they just don't see the need to add their genetic makeup into the mix. (Then there are some people that just shouldn't have had kids) Apparently, it's such an alien view that something MUST be wrong with the CFBC right? No. And others who think that are ignorant lumps.


The Chicken Lady said...

I have a friend who is CFBY and she is 40something and has never had a regret. BUT, we all change with age, wisdom, experiences. Heck, changing our mind is our right as women! Some women NEED kids at 18, some can wait til they're 50 and all those ages in between. If this is a decision that has been made with time, then it's most likely right. I hope you don't get too many people in your face saying negative things. Although, I know you can handle them and their dumb ideas. :)

The Vuylsteke Family said...

There is nothing wrong with being CFBC or wanting to change that. You do what is best for you and your husband, no matter what anyone has to say. (Yeah, like you would let someone sway you anyway. :P) Best of luck! I hope that you are able to have kids in a healthy way, without complications. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Who I Am said...

Hey, there is nothing wrong with choosing to not have kids. At least those who know they don't want them will likely do what it takes to prevent having them. I'm excited for you that you changed your mind. Circumstances change, lives change and choices change. It's how we evolve, right?